Thursday, June 2, 2011

The Truth behind social network addiction, unleashing Facebook, Twitter, Blogs



I stared blogging a year ago with the intention of recording each and every moment of my life, happiness, sadness, friendship, experience, mistakes etc. It was not long for me to enter the stage where I had a lot of people expressing their views on the writing, way of writing. I thought it instills happiness in people when they read it. I was interested in some blogs for which I was a regular user to get updates. My interests were cooking at a stage and thus I referred some food blogs. It was later like a game in which you write a comment, you get one back… someone writes you a comment and you reply them back. A question for all would be that how many of you read the articles completely? Most often seen comments are oh nice!, very good post, was interesting, some even wrote about hotels in Dubai and PHD degrees. This isn’t about all but the minority/ majority who also play their part in the game for better performance. You see blogs getting 120, 150 comments… ah! Are they all reading your posts, hmm...? They need a favor in return. Is this what we intend by blogging or we all wish to receive guanine comments.

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I am not interested in passing statements but you never expect your friends to ask you to read their blogs and not to forget in leaving comments. I apologize for being part of the group that I had to satisfy with an intention that they would be happy to receive a comment. But for them as I understand the concern is not receiving better comments but more comments. Someone said to me that their friend, a fellow blogger receives 60 comments recently which is much higher than her/his count and intends to increase it to 120. I won’t comment as everyone has a goal that is associated with their blogging.

More than a means of making friends and sharing experiences, blogging has become a market place to sell products. Is it a status symbol to show to your friends/colleagues? I hope no, I see many bloggers holding blogger meet and yes it is an act of sharing joy and meeting the ones you see online… this indeed has some good aspects but isn’t used by everyone as expected. You expect sincere responses, not a lot of responses… ok that’s what I intend. To be precise you even don’t expect responses if people aren’t able to conceive your thoughts or they aren’t interested.

I have seen many people leaving their blogging because they are no longer interested in passing false comments or don’t get time to carry the normal activity of writing blogs as they have to write comment on others. Hmm… This isn’t focused on anyone but me who has experienced the unexpected aspects of blogs.

Facebook is indeed a book exposing your face. Surpassing Orkut it has emerged to gather your lost ones, to build a stronger bond. People use it as a means of sharing their photographs, memorizing moments, tying a knot of friendship virtually, staying connected. Now another aspect is that this is an amphitheatre where you get a lot of people gathered at a single place not physically. You distribute promotional materials, introduce yourselves and sell an opportunity. Not all but some use it for attracting more users to their blogs/profession. I aint speaking a lot on this as I hope my intention to make one think; are we using it “a better” is conveyed.

I thought to share some views on Twitter but I hope that is not required. Everyone can ask why they are on twitter and you have the answer.

We all intend to express, kindly don’t sell.

Note: This post is a personal opinion from a blogger and please don’t consider it as a means of criticism.

14 comments:

  1. This's true.(Commenting after reading the whole post of course).Blogging requires a lot of time.First for preparing and writing a post,And after writing that,we spend another bunch of hours to check whether it's received comments,whether the no:of followers has increased,etc etc.If u r passing through an exam time or "Writer's block"(It means pure laziness or blankness),u've no other option but to leave blogging..I think I'm doing the same now..But I've never given up commenting.Whenever I login to Fb,I check my dashboard to read interesting posts..Reading has been a part of my Life,For some posts,I feel a strong urge to record my response..This's one among that.(Don't u feel lucky,Abhi?)
    I don't feel and have to write other than 2 lined sentences which has nothing to do but appear as my Fb status!So,my blog has been shut out of...
    P.S:Reality-check Post !

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  2. hmmmm- exactly my concerns for the past few days , I make it a point to read fellow-bloggers post before I post a comment, but one can never deny that it has become a business of you scratch my back & I scratch you back; Caught in this vicious whirlpool, it does take out the fun in blogging & puts immense pressure - I fully appreciate ur sentiments abhi !express don't sell sums it all !

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  3. I partially agree with you Abhi. Its so true and I have seen it happen that way too. But I have always tried to be genuine when I write to ppl. I write comments only when I have a point to say and have always tried to go through the entire post. Sometime when it comes to my friends blogs I just leave a normal comment even when I don't have a point to share or when I am not so impressed with the post. That comment is just to let my friend know that I have gone through their post and that would make them feel good for sure. I agree to your points when it comes to commenting for the sake of getting comments back. Thats not ethical.

    But when it comes to FB, twitter and other social networking sites, sometimes its not wrong to advertise what you are doing. I am not talking abt ppl who boast of what they do but abt ppl who are genuinely doing something wonderful and want the world to know what it is!! We are not famous personalities for ppl to search for our page and read. We are just normal ppl who have good points to share. How else do you think you can let ppl know what you are doing???? Its very sad if good work doesn't get its due recognition and its really worse when it goes totally unnoticed. Do you agree with me???

    If there is a good medicine for a pain, but if the doctor doesn't prescribe it to you, how would you know it???? Take it that way. If you find ppl advertising or selling their blog, go through once, may be they have something good to say. If you are still not impressed, don't visit their page. Don't have to be fake, be true. Be happy with the little comments that you get. Isn't it simple when we take it and see it simple :) Why do you have to take it to heart and feel bad for how ppl have changed. Afterall everyone in this world wants to be a star someday and they are trying for it in someway or the other.

    And if someone is leaving the blogging world just because of this I would simple call them Cowards. Come on.. If you have good content and interest to say it to the world why do you have to bother about fake ppl. Do your duty and it will be paid off for sure. Those who leave it are fooling themselves by calling it bad.

    This is my honest opinion and is not any form of criticism for sure. Forget the negatives and enjoy the positives in everything. Be optimistic to have a happy life always.

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  4. Guess I have almost written a post as comment :P sorry buddy

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  5. You got it right Abhi....

    For me, blogging is way of expressing my thoughts on certain issues that touches my heart.. nd once I have penned it down, I somehow fell better.. and if there are comments or alternate views then good.. but I seldom find the need to comment on all blogs since there is nothing more to add...
    and like your blog many are in my google reader, and I read them all when I find time..

    Please keep writing..

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  6. I partially agree with you Abhi. Its so true and I have seen it happen that way too. But I have always tried to be genuine when I write to ppl. I write comments only when I have a point to say and have always tried to go through the entire post. Sometime when it comes to my friends blogs I just leave a normal comment even when I don't have a point to share or when I am not so impressed with the post. That comment is just to let my friend know that I have gone through their post and that would make them feel good for sure. I agree to your points when it comes to commenting for the sake of getting comments back. Thats not ethical.

    But when it comes to FB, twitter and other social networking sites, sometimes its not wrong to advertise what you are doing. I am not talking abt ppl who boast of what they do but abt ppl who are genuinely doing something wonderful and want the world to know what it is!! We are not famous personalities for ppl to search for our page and read. We are just normal ppl who have good points to share. How else do you think you can let ppl know what you are doing???? Its very sad if good work doesn't get its due recognition and its really worse when it goes totally unnoticed. Do you agree with me???

    If there is a good medicine for a pain, but if the doctor doesn't prescribe it to you, how would you know it???? Take it that way. If you find ppl advertising or selling their blog, go through once, may be they have something good to say. If you are still not impressed, don't visit their page. Don't have to be fake, be true. Be happy with the little comments that you get. Isn't it simple when we take it and see it simple :) Why do you have to take it to heart and feel bad for how ppl have changed. Afterall everyone in this world wants to be a star someday and they are trying for it in someway or the other.

    And if someone is leaving the blogging world just because of this I would simple call them Cowards. Come on.. If you have good content and interest to say it to the world why do you have to bother about fake ppl. Do your duty and it will be paid off for sure. Those who leave it are fooling themselves by calling it bad.

    This is my honest opinion and is not any form of criticism for sure. Forget the negatives and enjoy the positives in everything. Be optimistic to have a happy life always.

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  7. Well, you mentioned so many interesting things about blogging and comments..Personally i keep reading my buddies post and leave the comments..Even i never accept if someone asks me to follow her space just to leave a comment, its totally my personal decision..However we couldnt ask everyone to read and leave their comments..Its all depends upon them..Doesnt matter about the number of comments but the number of wonderful bloggers or virtual friends we cross..Sometimes we have to accept the fact that we blog for our passions not for comments:)..

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  8. Some of the facts that you mentioned here is true....for me its like a community where you meet people who share the same interests like you....some do use it promote their blog or ads but inspite of that you do meet some good friends right....

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  9. What you written is true, now blogging become somewhat business, how many post, how many comments and how many followers, I know it is the platform to learn and establish the friendship, but friendship hard to come by now a days.

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  10. this post makes a lot of sense...there is something about blog that makes it different from other social networking sites.even twitter.
    but people want to get noticed and sadly blogger has lost many of its users.
    "We all intend to express, kindly don’t sell"-well said.

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  11. I partially agree with you Abhi. Its so true and I have seen it happen that way too. But I have always tried to be genuine when I write to ppl. I write comments only when I have a point to say and have always tried to go through the entire post. Sometime when it comes to my friends blogs I just leave a normal comment even when I don't have a point to share or when I am not so impressed with the post. That comment is just to let my friend know that I have gone through their post and that would make them feel good for sure. I agree to your points when it comes to commenting for the sake of getting comments back. Thats not ethical.

    But when it comes to FB, twitter and other social networking sites, sometimes its not wrong to advertise what you are doing. I am not talking abt ppl who boast of what they do but abt ppl who are genuinely doing something wonderful and want the world to know what it is!! We are not famous personalities for ppl to search for our page and read. We are just normal ppl who have good points to share. How else do you think you can let ppl know what you are doing???? Its very sad if good work doesn't get its due recognition and its really worse when it goes totally unnoticed. Do you agree with me???

    If there is a good medicine for a pain, but if the doctor doesn't prescribe it to you, how would you know it???? Take it that way. If you find ppl advertising or selling their blog, go through once, may be they have something good to say. If you are still not impressed, don't visit their page. Don't have to be fake, be true. Be happy with the little comments that you get. Isn't it simple when we take it and see it simple :) Why do you have to take it to heart and feel bad for how ppl have changed. Afterall everyone in this world wants to be a star someday and they are trying for it in someway or the other.

    And if someone is leaving the blogging world just because of this I would simple call them Cowards. Come on.. If you have good content and interest to say it to the world why do you have to bother about fake ppl. Do your duty and it will be paid off for sure. Those who leave it are fooling themselves by calling it bad.

    This is my honest opinion and is not any form of criticism for sure. Forget the negatives and enjoy the positives in everything. Be optimistic to have a happy life always.

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  12. being a photoblog i feel its a lil easier and i do visit only a very few non photoblogs. yours is one and your fun filled writing makes it easy to read it fully.

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  13. Urgh, yes yes yes....blogging sucks a lot of time. I've stopped commenting as extensively, and though it does mean less comments, I don't care bc with that time I get to do productive and more enjoyable things like read or watch a film.

    And I kind of get annoyed at impersonal, generic comments, so I can imagine that if I leave that to someone else's post, they will feel the same way.

    For me Facebook is kind of my soapbox, I just share or vent or lol anything I want. I'm not sure what I want to do with Twitter now though. I unfollowed everyone except news organizations. I think I want to use it for more professional purposes, maybe...

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